You are strong. You are raising a strong boy.
The people yelling at you today, before they even knew why YOU were yelling… they are the weak ones.
The people who didn’t even look your way, as you yelled, “Call the police! Call the Police” They are the weak ones.
The ones who were in your face and told YOU to calm down, but refused to even listen when you did…
I hugged you today, mother to mother. Yep, I’m that white girl. When your boy put his arms out for a hug too, I saw how much he appreciated the respect. And it bothered me.
I asked my husband on the way home, what he thought would have happened had it been me, a white woman, and my teenage son, in front of a packed grocery store in the late afternoon; screaming for someone to “call the police!” with an unmistakable fear in my voice. How different would my experience be? After what I witnessed today, there’s not even a smidgen of a doubt in my mind that the color of my skin puts me at an advantage, at least in this community,
The truth is, I didn’t see what happened. I didn’t care what happened. All I care about is you and your family. I heard you screaming as we were getting into our truck. When I got close enough to see your face, I also saw your son. I saw the tears in his eyes as he stood, mature and strong, while a white man, twice his size, got in his face. I also heard one woman snicker, “they don’t serve those kind of burgers here” when you had to defend your panic to someone and proclaimed, “I just wanted to get some fucking turkey burgers!”.
I hugged you today because you looked scared. And when I’m scared there’s nothing better than a reminder that I’m not alone! I hugged you today because that’s what I would have needed at that moment. It was weird… I am weird. (That’s no secret). But that’s why.
I wanted to come back and give you my number… weird… I know… but I felt like I needed you to know that I gave a shit. Because I do. And because I didn’t (come back and give you the number)… well, this. ((hugs))